Pardon the bad title. Brain in work mode.

So yesterday I was having a chat with Naa and I did the verbal invasion of the conversation thing again because when you’re conducting a language conquest it’s best to start with your friends to allow the domination to spread faster.

So whilst I was crapping on, one of my problems I forgot about came up. This is quite possibly the most important thing I need to work on currently as it has caused myself and many others far more trouble than it’s worth.

I put a bit of fiction here a few posts back as I thought it fit nicely into the narrative of my somewhat dramatic yet uninteresting life, weaving it in slightly with a previous post and posing questions in it as well.

Yes, it was written whilst I was bitter. Yes, it draws on some elements in my life. No, it was not written about anyone. It is fiction. I assumed everyone would know.

AND THAT’S THE PROBLEM.

“But Stupidity Hole, surely you wouldn’t make an assumption that ridiculous regarding something like that!”

I would and did.

Generally I assume that people know what I’m thinking, why I do or say something or why I might find something a problem. Usually this is because I will mention something once (sometimes as a side note) and leave it at that.

At other times it is due to my thinking that once someone has spent enough time around me, they’ll automatically know my thoughts/understand my doing of stuff/saying things.

On uncommon occasions, I will put something out there with no explanation because I don’t think about puttig an explanation with it. I think that if it’s obvious to me, it should be obvious to everyone else.

What ends up happening is either myself or a friend or a significant other gets angry due to my assuming. Then what usually happens is that I end up explaining and get frustrated that there was no understanding, despite that resting on my shoulders.

So how do I change this?

I have to be more open about thoughts and actions instead of outright assuming or mentioning something briefly and then assuming.

Restating things on occasion is not a bad thing to do either. It does prevent a lot of bad events later down the track.

With that particular post, I’ve added a disclaimer and will do so for future fictitious writings I make appear to be real life. To be honest, this wouldn’t have occurred to me if it hadn’t been pointed yesterday that writing a fictitious post like that with no obvious sign that it is not real life makes it not a respectable read. Especially when it comes off as spiteful.

This is good because I was going to write about a car crash and a failed robbery and have no indication they didn’t happen.

Whilst this is a communication problem, I think it’s a pretty specific issue that requires more attention than generalising it under one thing. It will take some time, but I can turn it around.